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anyone have any helpful suggestions?
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I get a sleep in tomorrow morning! My flat mate is looking after the kid tonight because my baby brother finally moved out of home, and moved in with my toy boy, so I'm going to stay at their flat tonight coz it's their first night. So I'll get to s…
Hey Carly. That sucks :( I know how you feel. It's never ending, no matter how much you really just need that break. I want to be able to sleep in for 3 days in a row nad catch up on all the sleep I've been missing out on. It would make everything s…
Hello everyone. How have you all been? I'm starting to find things really difficult again. I was doing well for a while. Moved to Rotorua to be closer to my mother. Turns out she talks to me less when I live here. She helps out with my kid on the we…
Oh Kristina. That is awful. Definately go to Winz first thing on Monday to see what they can do because on top of the base DPB rate you can get an accomodation supplement, working for families, and temporary additional support. The temporary additio…
Hello everyone. Sounds like everyone has had a lot on. Kristina, glad to hear things are finally looking up for you! You deserve it.
Hope everyone has things looking up for them as we head into christmas!
Hey Rebecca. Sounds like you're having a bad time of it :( What's been going on? I'm not very good at dealing with anger. I'm better than I used to be. Now I just seethe. I normally put my kid in her cot and close her door so I know she's safe, call…
I think the girl should be allowed to have it done without her parents knowledge/consent as long as she has had counselling with a professional first. There are many families were it would not be a good thing for a girl's parents to know, and that m…
That's exciting Kristina!!! Looking forward to hearing from you about how it goes :)
That's not good Nightsky. Hope you're ok! Can be so stressful when baby is sick :(
Exciting about the play gym Kristina! It's so fun buying little items for the babies.
Why not try and change youre midwife? You never know. At least talk to them, say…
She's 13 months now.
My girl's reflux was caaused predominantly by an allergy to dairy. So after about 6 weeks, I figured it out and after a few more weeks of testing my theory and sticking with soy it became completely manageable. She's great now. She has contact with…
Nightsky, I know how hard a reflux baby can be. It was awful! I spent the first few months with my girl sleeping on my chest while I slept upright coz it was the only way she'd sleep without crying. Her dad has never met her, and mostly I cope ok. B…
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- At 10:12pm on February 13, 2010,
Emily Strang said…
- Hey ya, Im kinda new to this whole thing, anyways i see you are in Rotarua, ive just moved up the road to Tauranga from Hawkes Bay, i have a partner and a 10 month old baby girl!!! just thought id say hi!!!
- At 3:01pm on March 2, 2009,
Melissa Espinasse said… - Gosh... our comments are just getting bigger and bigger. Feels like i've known you for years. hehehehehe.
Where is Kapiti? I'm soooo bad with geography.
I don't even know some areas in Auckland, how shocking, and I've been living in NZ for 12 years.
I'm gonna keep this one short as I'm heading to the movies with my mum...but yes i do have facebook and msn.
my email addy is frenchy_meli@hotmail.com, or I think you can type in melissa espinasse and find me on facebook, i should be the only one!
Will totaly be cool to keep in touch. We have sooooooooo much to talk about.
Yay :)
Talk to you a bit later....totaly add on facebook. I'm on there everyday, hehehehehe.
- At 1:52pm on March 2, 2009,
Melissa Espinasse said…
- Ohhh boy do we have soooooooooooooo much in common. Why are we miles apart!!!???
You know, its a good thing you left him. He so does not deserve you or your time. So don't waste your precious energy on him. You have sooooo much life to live and I'm sure you have sooo much going for you.
I totaly understand what you mean by out of place....gosh I feel like that all the time, and thats even with people I've known for years. I haven't had the courage to go to a coffee group yet, but I really should. I've just been trying to get my life back on track...
I've never been the type of girl whose ever been single. So for me at the moment its very hard. I'm praticly been seriously dating since I was 15! I get lonely very easily...and now its not just me I have to worry about, its that who ever comes into my life has to deal with the fact that they will have to be a daddy and deal with my dreaded ex!!!!! Grrrr he's soooo bloody anoying... he won't leave me alone, always wants to know what I'm doing and things, he's such a pain. He keeps thinking I left him because theres someone else....gosh I wish they were lining up at the door, but there not. I think I got hit on once and the guy didn't even ask for my number!!!!! Hehehehehe I think seeing the movie "he's just not that into you" really helps. I'm going to buy that on DVD and watch it everyday when it comes out to remind me that I DESERVE the very best.
Hmmm...as for the exercise thing, I have live with my mum and she's got her own gym so I try use that everyday...though its hard to fit that in with my daughters schedule, as she doesn't sleep for long during the day or sleeps at unconvenient times to exercise. Walking is really good, and I guess setting realistic goals and not having high expectations..like i'm gonna lose 10 kg's in 2 months...yes its duable but with a baby...not so realistic.
As for the stretchmarks...gosh that's the one thing stopping me from being confident...I probably have the same as you...its aweful...i'm trying anything I can to get rid of them :( :( :( :( It really stops one from feeling like a goddess thats for sure!
The arrangements I have with my ex is that he has Chloe 2 days a week with overnight visits. I.e Sat-Sun and i get her back Monday morning, or Sun-Mon and I get her back Tuesday morning. I hate it...I think she's too little to be going without me, but stupid Plunket said it was fine, so now he won't take no for an answer. I get a chance to have every second weekend off, and that helps as I can go out and still do things, but if I don't keep myself busy I go nuts and really depressed because I miss her. I know its good for her to see her dad, well so I have to keep telling myself.
- At 11:14am on March 2, 2009,
Melissa Espinasse said…
- Ohhh i so know what you mean!!! For us though everything was happy and dandy, we really wanted a child and Chloe was planned. I just didn't see the real him till it was too late. He was a complete control freak, I just started living in a prison and I just had to get out. For me leaving him was the hardest decision I've ever had to make, and the guilt kept me there longer than I wanted too. It's sooo hard though. I have a lot of friends well not that many, but there all young in maturity. There biggest worry is am i going to get drunk and hook up with a cute guy...where is mine is...am I going to be able to raise this child on my own??
I really need to make some friends who are in the same situation, cause it really doesn't help when you see the happy couples with their babies. That's when the guilt kicks in, and the lonelyness.
I don't think that you miss him persay....but more the companionship. You will find someone who will love you more and treat you like a total princess...that you'll laugh at yourself for ever thinking that!!!
At the moment for me... Its only really been a month or so since I left him, and I've been trying to get my body back in shape...though I ever doubt any man would ever want to see me naked again!!!! Yikes...pregnancy was not good to my body at all. Hehehehe
Anyway...make a list of all the things you don't like about him...put that up on your mirror or something and look at it everyday as a reminder as to why you don't need him and why you deserve better.
- At 10:56am on March 2, 2009,
Melissa Espinasse said…
- I used to feel like I was the only one going through this horrible mess, luckily my friend Rebecca suggested this website. It's nice to know that you're not alone and there are other people going through the same things. I wish we were in the same city so we could have a proper chat. But I guess we'll have to settle for the internet!
Stay strong and make a new life for yourself and your gorgeous little girl. You don't need that low life!!!
- At 1:09pm on January 27, 2009,
Marilynn - Mums on Top Editor said… - Hi there happymummy and welcome to Mums on Top!
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