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Comment by Natalie Maree Aitken on February 22, 2010 at 12:04pm

Hi there, we are currently living in Hamilton, but are heading up to Auckland in the near future. I was wondering if there are any other Auckland home birthers in this group that know of coffee groups leaning towards homebirth/natural parenting philosophies? Would love to have some like-minded company once we head to the big smoke!

Comment by Jen on February 15, 2010 at 10:32am

Thanks ladies, we've found a wonderful midwife who specialises in homebirths, after a little reassuring i think my hubby is convinced, it also helps that we live only about 5 minutes drive from the womens hospital, i think i might have a harder time convincing him to hold my hand though, when i had aysha he was i was in the birthing pool and he was in the adjoining room not wanting to witness the event, although he did cut the cord, anyways i told him that he can look after our little darling number 1..
Im so excited, now time to just enjoy the pregnancy and look forward to our waterhomebirth :).. Liesje we are so going to get a "capceco" :) Also i just googed home birth association and i think they are all individual (as in one in auckland, canterbury, dunedin, taranaki active birth, etc)

Comment by Liesje Bradley on February 15, 2010 at 12:07am

Is there still a home birth association?

I've tried to contact them through their website but no one has replied. I would love to tell them about our product the 'Capceco' Biodegradable Placenta Capsule as it is perfect for home births as you obviously have to keep your wonderful placenta. A couple of my girl friends have both recently had home births and the midwives loved using our product, so I'd love to get the message out there to women wanting to have home births - any suggestions?
Thanks and I am so envious when I read some of your home birth experiences, I've had 2 inductions so I had to go to hospital and lucky because the first one ended up an emergency "c" section! But that's having babies....

Comment by Jodie Goudswaard on February 13, 2010 at 1:49pm

Hi Jen,
My two (2 years and 6 months) were both born at home. My husband was also pretty nervous to start with and my mum was terrible - thought it was a really bad decisions.....to start with anyway. I got my husband to come with me to a midwife visit so she could answer any of his concerns. My midwife also recommended a book which I got out from the library (sorry can't remember the name) and I read bits out to him and marked pages I thought he should read (there's no way he would have read the whole thing) and he was pretty happy by the end of it. I also told both him and mum that there would be two midwives present for the birth - one for me and one for the baby - that probably of all things made them the happiest. But at the end of the day it is about you and where you feel most confident. I was adamant that I would be happier at home in my comfortable surroundings and he was happy to support me with that.
Good luck!

Comment by Donna Rhea O'leary on February 12, 2010 at 9:57pm

Hi new to all this tech, where do i read the birth stories..... please! I am a mother of six wonderful children, oldest being 17 and youngest 5months. Hehehe 3 of them breech water birth at home and one wee rat bag head down water birth at home also. love reading other peoples experience and happy to share my own. where do i start. :-)

Comment by Marsha Jordyn-Mullins on February 12, 2010 at 11:07am

Hi Jen, I birthed my two older girls at home 16 and 14 years ago, but still had nervous family members questioning my choice 3rd time around, 13 months ago. My midwife - a homebirth advocate - was an invaluable ally. She talked openly and honestly with the whole family, showing them that homebirth is in fact a sensible and safe option, rather than some crackpot hippie idea. She was so confident and clear about her own need to maintain safety standards, that my family felt that I was in the best possible hands.

Of course, being really confident in your own decision is vital too, as well as being well informed about the facts around home vs. hospital. I agree completely with the others - of course hospitals save lives in emergencies, but most of the time birth is not an emergency, it's a natural part of life. Good luck!

Comment by Louise - empowering motherhood on February 12, 2010 at 8:32am

I think the best way of getting others on board is by being confident and grounded in yourself and passing this feeling on. Giving information can be useful but I found that if I was confident those around me became more confident. I had a caesarean the first time (planned H.birth) and some of my family were very nervous of me having a homebirth second time. However as I became confident and trusting I changed my responses to their fear and actually ended up telling some members to stop passing their fear onto me. Good luck. (I did have 5hr labour and homebirth 2nd time!!)

Comment by Jami on February 12, 2010 at 8:01am

Hi Louise, I have a brand new peanut swiss ball if you would like me to send it to you just pm me your address, that is if you are still intact ;) I also gave birth to a posterior baby at home and although it wasn't the easiest birth I still enjoyed it and would do it again.
Jen, I am in the process of talking to my BIL about letting my sister birth at home this time. It is all about eliminating the fear. We are making a list of pros and cons of home birth (I don't really have any cons but my sister said we have to come up with some for his sake?)
I would suggest maybe getting a homebirth midwife that you like and trust to talk to both you and your husband and let him know that homebirth is a safe and comfy way to birth your baby without having to transfer but if you need to transfer its really not that far and your midwife can usually transfer faster than an ambulance getting to you. Most husbands are worried about the mess but the midwife cleans up afterwards, and I find that a lot of husbands are concerned about their wives needing drugs, but if you are in a safe comfy environment there is no need for drugs in birth.
It might pay to get him to read up on homebirth with you to calm him.
Hospitals are there for a reason, but most women don't need to be there to give birth (just my opinion)
Good luck with trying to calm your husband

Comment by Jen on February 11, 2010 at 6:53pm

We just found out we're having number two.. i wanted a homebirth with my 1st bub but hubby and my mum were more nervous than i was, anyways we had a natural water birth with aysha and we had no hiccups, so im looking into a homebirth this time around, how do you suggest i calm and convince my hubby?

Comment by hayley on December 10, 2009 at 2:43pm

yea i had a home birth with my third boy it was a great experenise , and would love to do ti again as you feel more comfortable at home then in the hospitail but each to there own really

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